Fact is, combining motherhood with other responsibilities is never an easy task. My children are a handful already and if they were the only business I would have to attend to, it would still be a tedious task.
I hope I didn’t just discourage you from having children,
because that would be so unfortunate. My genuine intent here is to tell you the whole truth about motherhood , what perhaps no one would tell you, probably because you didn’t think it’s necessary to ask.
Motherhood is a full time job on its own, the problem is, no one puts you on a payroll, not even your husband. It can be really really frustrating sometimes you know but there is no turning back, no way out. Stuck for life, more than a death sentence.
As I write now, I am still hopeful and looking forward to that day of rest I have been dreaming of. A day I wouldn’t have to wake up early and in a haste to go about my morning chores just to get some two unconcerned toddlers ready for school, a day I can have some peace of mind, I mean a peaceful and quite environment.
A day someone would serve me breakfast in bed and say I will get you water to drink ?. My ears are itching to hear someone say “mummy what should I cook today or can I go get the groceries”, “I am done doing the laundry, the utensils are clean . A day I can have the television to myself and watch my favorite channels to my heart’s content. A day I can go out and not think of rushing home because I have two little humans to take care of.
It is for this reason that whenever they go to spend the weekends with their grandmother, I feel like heaven has visited me here on earth. Forgive me for not mentioning to you earlier that my in-laws are absolutely amazing, they are really a blessing. They have been so helpful to me in so many ways.I will make a mention of them in subsequent posts.
You can imagine the moment we get back home from dropping the kids and an empty, quite house welcomes us. I just go straight to bed, the style I use in jumping into the bed alone is superb, the feeling is awesome. I feel a kind of weight lifted from off my shoulders. It’s those times I relive my single life, awww I miss that so much.
I sleep soundly throughout the night and I have good dreams 😀.if I have to wake up at night , then it would be to use the washroom or pray. Breakfast is not compulsory or time bound.
I visit the kitchen whenever I want to and get out of bed same. in fact, the freedom I enjoy is incomparable to anything. There is so much quietness I am able to concentrate and do so much in a little time. My washing moments are not dragged on into late evening.
Plus; I rest my jaws from screaming the usual choruses; stop it, leave there, it’s ok etc
Amazingly, in spite of all these, I still miss them anyways 😃, that is the mystery of motherhood. The fact that when they are here we want so much for them to go away yet, when they are away we miss them and want them back.
This could be one fine trick God plays on us so we won’t abandoned them. Honestly it would have been so🤣
As much as motherhood can be overwhelmingly stressful, I must confess that it doesn’t deny me the pleasure of enjoying some great and remarkable moments. Moments I feel so proud of being a mother. Having an amazing husband who is very supportive makes the burden lesser. I don’t know how I would have managed to this end without him.
Apart from working as a blogger, I have quite a number of projects I am attending to. First of all I am a teacher which requires that I spend time studying in preparation for my lessons, I would have to prepare teaching and lesson notes( I don’t even remember the last time I prepared a lesson note🙄😃). Spending hours in school on daily basis, teaching, giving exercises and marking in addition to other responsibilities that comes with working as a teacher. All these are very demanding.
That aside, I am a minister of God, gospel artist who is working on promoting my debut single and recording more songs , I sing in my local church and hold other positions as well. Apart from these, I am a YouTuber and a Tiktoker😄. I have a page and a group on Facebook I am managing . My other social media handles are all adamant because I don’t even get time to visit them. So you can see how very busy I am.
I must confess that motherhood has taught me and it’s still teaching me so much about life. There were things I learnt how to do only when I became a mother. Misconceptions I had about motherhood or better put, some mothers have been erased or fixed when I became one.
The most profound of all all is how being a mother myself has helped me to value and appreciated my very own mother. Never knew she had endured and sacrificed so much for my brothers and I. A countless number of times I have criticized her decisions and choices; especially for me as a kid. I have been so inconsiderate to an extent, of her needs, expectations and concerns for my life. In subsequent posts I will share more on that with you.
It’s against this backdrop that I hold this belief that “Until you become a mother, you will never be able to fully appreciate your mother”. Yes we may have seen our mothers go through one or two challenging moments , they might have shared their struggles, pains or even their fears with us but I can assure you that it’s not the reality of what they have been through.
Mothers conceal their pains in their smiles just so their children can have the courage to laugh. God bless all mothers.
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